1. Be sure you're pregnant. Your handy home
pregnancy kit reads positive? Confirm your condition with a doctor you trust and who doesn't do abortions. Or check with a local pregnancy aid center, they may provide tests and other services for free. Don't run off in a panic to an abortion clinic where all roads lead to abortion, and you are likely to say "yes" to anything while you're upset.
Let's say you call an abortion clinic's help number by mistake. And soon you hear a calming voice say, “Why don’t you stop by for a simple pregnancy test?” Once inside the clinic, counselors have ways to convince you that you're pregnant, even if you are not. If a test is negative they might say, "This test is not sensitive enough to pick up an early pregnancy, you could still be pregnant…and you want to be sure today, don't you?" Of course you do. So next they may turn on the sonogram (for the wrong reasons) to search inside your abdomen for a blob that looks a lot like a fetus. And every abdomen, man, woman or child, has a blob.
But what if the original test determines you are pregnant? No problem. Abortion clinic counselors, working from a script, are trained to erase any second thoughts about having an abortion. Every woman has two questions for the abortion doctor: “Is it a baby?” and “ Does it hurt?” The answer to both is always “No”, says Carol Everett, former owner and director of abortion clinics in Texas. Women are told there will be only slight cramping, when in reality an abortion is excruciatingly painful, according to Everett, who had been through one herself.
2. Know the difference between an abortion clinic and a pregnancy aid center. You'll get real help at a pregnancy aid center, where many services are confidential and free, and options other than abortion are emphasized. Many offer free pregnancy tests and can direct you to reliable prenatal medical advice and care. Maybe you'd like to join a group on parenting and motherhood, or you need help dealing with your parents or boyfriend who are pressuring you into an abortion. Don't be afraid to ask for intervention by an aid center counselor. Many local pregnancy centers even have free adoption support services available. Whoever you contact, let them know up front that you are seeking professional help for the health of both you and your baby.
3. Know the risks of abortion. Like any medical procedure, abortion involves the risk of physical harm. Make sure you understand all aspects of the procedure you will receive. It's your legal right to question everything, such as: "How are complications handled?"…"Do you provide followup or emergency care?"…"Does the abortion doctor have admitting privileges to a hospital nearby in case of an emergency?" Abortion clinic counselors won't want to discuss abortion's emotional after effects. The psychological harm suffered by a woman who has acted against her conscience shows up in a lifetime of guilt, and a feeling of loss. Her baby’s abortion anniversary gets forever etched in her mind. Some become suicidal. Others develop a hatred toward men and may even become sexually dysfunctional. Studies show a link between abortion and breast cancer later in life. Milk-producing cells produced during pregnancy remain in the breasts and become risky cancer-vulnerable cells after an abortion. Simply put, abortion denies every woman her natural right to a mother's loving relationship with her unborn child.
4. Is someone forcing you to have an abortion? Tell them they are breaking the law. You have more than enough to deal with. You're pregnant, you're just a teen, your boyfriend who isn't ready for fatherhood is pressuring you to abort, and your parents are on his side for a change. Take a deep breath, the law is on your side. No one, not even a husband or parent can require you to undergo an abortion against your will, even if you are a minor under 18 years of age. If no one will listen, contact your local pregnancy care center for support. They can help you discuss your wishes and course of action with those closest to you that are challenging your decision. Anyone threatening physical harm, withholding compensation or social assistance unless you have an abortion is clearly breaking the law and should be reported immediately to authorities.
5. Get the abortion doctor's name. Confirm that he or she is a licensed physician and a board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist. Physicians-in-training are less likely to introduce themselves and explain their roles to their patients. Don't be afraid to ask: "How much experience do you have doing this procedure?"…"What is your success record and what complications have you had with this surgery?" Does the doctor have the privileges to admit you to a hospital in the event of an emergency? Take the time to Google the doctor's name or call your state medical licensing board to see if public state records show any history of medical malpractice. Be even more careful in more remote areas of the country where there's a shortage of doctors or places where the abortion business is booming. In such places abortions are sometimes performed by less experienced "health care professionals" under the guidance of an offsite doctor supervising with the help of a WebCam. So get your doctor's name!
6. "Show me the sonogram." Watching a sonogram image of your fetus sucking its tiny thumb or seeing its beating heart on an ultrasound image is like holding your brand new baby in your arms for the first time. Studies show a dramatic drop in abortion when mothers view sonogram images of their unborn so full of life. While a sonogram can serve the abortion clinic's illicit purpose of finding a "blob" as previously noted in step 1 above, it's not in an abortion clinic's interest to show convincing evidence that a woman is carrying a human life. When some women see such images after their abortion they are overwhelmed and grieved that the information the abortion clinic provided was misleading. So, don't be deceived. Demand to see your baby's first signs of life. Just say, "Show me the sonogram." (In 2010, bills mandating ultrasound were introduced in 21 state legislatures)
7. Don't sign a release form that frees the doctor or clinic from their responsibility. By now you should be fully aware of the risks involved in an abortion. Before any procedure you will be asked to sign forms that some lawyer has drafted telling the doctor and clinic you understand those risks. Ask direct questions and be sure you understand and agree with the answers. If you're not 100% clear, reschedule for a later appointment and get outside advice. You must be absolutely certain your signature does not sign away your personal injury rights and release the doctor from being responsible for harming you during the procedure.
8. Is the clinic clean? If not, leave. The abortion industry remains the largest unregulated industry in the USA. In most places, veterinary clinics and tattoo parlors have more rigid healthcare guidelines than those for an abortion clinic. Check for dried blood stains on pads and sheets, or a soiled gown, or an oxygen mask with lipstick stains from an earlier patient. Shocked investigators have reported reuse of single use disposable items like urinary catheters. They've found clinics with no hot water for sterilization. High-traffic abortion clinics doing 20 to 30 abortions an hour have no time to sterilize instruments for the required 20 minutes and let them cool down. Infection rates are very high under these conditions.
9. Your baby is not a"blob." It's a Life. It's a lot easier to get a woman to abort her baby if the doctor tells her it's just a blob of tissue, or just a "dot." The fact is, each of us human beings begins as a single cell zygote! This is a basic objective scientific fact, not a personal opinion or belief. As early as 18 to 21 days, the unborn
human's brain, nervous system, eyes lungs and stomach have started to develop. On day 21, the heart begins to beat. If you are pregnant, you are creating a new life. Enjoy the power of your motherhood!
10. You can always change your mind and get your money back. Abortion is your choice, not the clinic's. It's never too late to back out of an abortion decision. Whether you are still in the waiting room, or on the table being prepped for the procedure…It’s never too late to say, “I need more time to think about what I'm doing.” Clinic personnel are trained to calm you down and convince you that having second thoughts is normal, and that it's best to go ahead. After all, you've already paid for all those tests… and it's just going to cost more at a later stage of pregnancy…besides, what will you tell your boyfriend? Know your rights. End the discussion and cancel the procedure. And don't let anyone tell you that you can't have your money back.